I often meet people who are clueless about where their life is going. Sometimes, their parents have chosen their career path for them, which may not be working out so well. And sometimes, they are simply clueless about what career-path they should choose. Sometimes, I meet some people who aren’t happy with their relationship but feel obligated to be in it. And some people, who aren’t really bothered about having a job, or a relationship are simply clueless about why they exist in the first place.
Let me tell you, this is normal. And if you are one of those people, then let me assure you that you are not alone.
I could draw inspirations for you by giving example of Colonel Harland Sanders, who wasn’t successful for most of his life, started a restaurant chain at age of 65, that we know as KFC today, one of the world’s largest restaurant chain. But I didn’t write this article to inspire you. It’s to help you figure shit out!
So let’s begin with a quote from the famous actor of Hollywood, Jim Carey from the award winning movies like “The Mask“, “Bruce Almighty” and “Yes Man“.
You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.’Jim Carey
Jim Carey is a phenomenal actor. He is one of those whose acting can make a movie hit, even if the script is not impressive at all. In one of his speech, he said “My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old; he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”
Now fellas, Jim couldn’t have put it better. And this applies to everything in your life. You can do a million things, but you don’t know which of them will turn out to be a success. What your parents are asking you to do – you can fail at that. The opportunities you take on today, you can fail at that too. The start-up that you start today, you can fail at that too. Basically, there’s a fair chance that you can fail at something.
And so, if you have to fail, then it might as well be something that you “want” to do. It has to be something that you are passionate about, that your heart wants you to do. It should be something that even when you fail, it should leave a smile on your face – the contentment and pride that you gave it your best-est shot, and discovered that it didn’t work. And let me tell you this – the chances of you failing at that are much slim than you failing at something else that you didn’t really get a kick in. After all, as Sylvester Stallone said in his movie, Rocky –
“Life’s not about how hard of a hit you can give… it’s about how many you can take, and still keep moving forward.”Sylvester Stallone
Fact is, you’ll face challenges. You’ll get obstacles in any endeavor that you choose. To overcome those obstacles and challenges, you need your brain, your heart and your will to be in sync, working together for you to overcome them. But if you choose something that you don’t really “love“, that’s when your heart and will takes the back seat, and how much can you really push things with your brain when your heart is not in the game?
Let’s be realistic. Heart doesn’t do thinking, it’s a stupid organ that’s only supposed to pump blood. All those emotions and feelings are sent from your brain – telling you that this is the right thing and this isn’t. If you choose to go against your own mind, well you are simply, plainly stupid.
Now, how do you figure out what you really want to do? It’s fine if you don’t know what you love. That’s all right. After all, most of us haven’t even seen 10% of the world. We don’t know what’s out there. What kind of career opportunities do exist? What kind of people you haven’t even met yet, that would become your great friends and amazing partners. What fitness/diet routine you are still unaware of, before you gave up on your health/fitness.
If you are lost, that’s simply because you haven’t explored the arena. So first of all – you need to explore the arena. And for that, the first thing that you need to do is, if you are unsure about it, then don’t commit to it.
Once you’ve concluded that this isn’t something you are signing up for lifetime, you approach it in a different way. You take whatever options you have, consider which ones will help you explore other opportunities, other options and you pick the one which will help you discover the most which is out there. And you then you are on the hunt.
It’s very important to hunt for your calling. If you haven’t done that yet, then it’s high time that you start now. If you did and failed, then perhaps you simply need to change your approach of your hunt. But a hunter you shall be!
The process of hunting includes a few things. It includes listing down all the possible options. Then associating your “love points” to those options. Sounds weird? Let me explain.
Suppose you have three options for things you can do today –
- Go to watch a movie solo.
- Go on a solo road trip.
- Stay home and paint something.
Sorry couples, we are talking about individual activities here. 😛
You start by assessing what do you want to do the most. And you set them in the priority. If your favorite option out of these three is (2) Go on solo road trip, like me, then you put 100 points to that. Then you eliminate that option and consider the remaining two – and the more favorable of those two – let’s say it’s (1) Go to watch a movie solo; then you allocate 50 points to that. And the third option let’s say get 10 points.
Then you know your heart desires for the first one. You know you are supposed to do that. But then comes the reality check. Let’s say you don’t have money in your pocket to do that. Now fellas, this is exactly where most of us go wrong. We immediately skip that option which we love, and go to the “second best”. But does anyone really care about the second best? No. That’s fucking compromise, and compromises are never good.
So the next step is not to choose your next favorable option. It’s to plan out how you can manage to chase your most favorable option – the most favorable profession, most favorable career. You think of all the ways you can achieve that, you create a plan and you start working on that plan. It may not be a good plan, and you may fail at it, but let’s learn from Jim Carey and do it anyway, rather than choosing the safer-looking option that we don”t love so much, yeah?
These things take time, that’s alright. It’s not easy either, and that’s fine too. Because when you fight for something that you are passionate about, that you love to do – then at the end of that road, once you are there – you’ll surpass yourself. If you chase this option, trust me on this – you’ll never be the second choice/second option/second-best at anything in your life. With this approach, you’ll lead the world. And if you choose the second option or the third or the forth – we’ll someone else will lead the world in your stead. And even if you don’t want to be a leader, you’ll be the inspiration for others to choose the first option, always. And well, let’s contribute something to the world we’ve born in, yeah?
So start your hunt. Plan for the hunt. List down your option. Figure out which is the one your heart desires the most. Create a plan to achieve it, reach there and then chase it. As simple as that!
And if you are worried about the money that you need to take care of your family, well let me tell you this – when you chase something whole-heartedly and you are willing to go beyond most people dare to – you end up becoming the best at it. And when you are best at something, money will be the least of your worries.
People earn playing a senseless, stupid game like PubG too! People earn by sitting at home as well, making those sponsored/”powered” tik-tok videos. You can make money, as long as you are pushing yourself to be the best. And yes, it takes time, effort, hard work. But all that is easier if you are doing something in which your heart, mind and will are working together. For anything else, well – I don’t care about the second best, do you?